So, the other night, I was to see an old friend. She was on the guest list of an event I was working. This is a woman who I know from married days and who I always quite liked. She, her husband and my ex are all linked professionally. We haven't seen each other in a while and I was looking forward to a chat.
Well, she arrived and I greeted her warmly. Response? Blank smile. Inane socially polite comment. Glazed "can't get out of here fast enough" expression.
We were only friends because I was "wife of".
I went to the woman's wedding for heaven's sake.
This has happened a few times now. It's one of the things nobody tells you to expect post separation. I won't say I'm hurt by it, just disappointed. Ultimately, it's the other person's stuff and that's OK. It's surprising how many people one gets a divorce from. It takes some getting used to.